When I reflect on the world today with its complex problems of financial, political and environmental doom and gloom then add the on-going discussion between what makes for a healthy mind, i.e. nurture, nature or both? is it any wonder that we are juggling the issues of mental health? Add to that unhealthy lifestyle choices which can result in addiction and lack of physical wellbeing producing a melting pot of toxins and hormones. In addition to this, anxiety caused by social media alongside and a lack of quality leisure time, is it any wonder that we are struggling to feel content?
How do I achieve happiness with all of these problems let alone dealing with my own family and childhood stuff?
There is no one single answer for everybody but something that is widely understood to be very helpful for people, is to talk to someone, someone who has no connection to your friends or family and will allow you space and time to talk freely in a confidential safe space without fear of judgement.
As a counsellor I have seen the positive changes in clients who at first were often very reluctant to open up to me but given time, a non directive approach and without judgement have really been able to explore and learn new things about themselves.
It is essential for us in the field of counselling and psychology, to receive regular supervision and regular personal counselling in line with BACP requirements Or another authorised body.
I remember the first time I had counselling and I thought, "This person doesn't care about me she is a stranger" but I soon realised that if I was going to really get to grips with "my stuff" that at some point I would need to try and trust that here is a professional trying to do her job and trust in the process of counselling. I'm very glad I did because it sent me on a long road of self discovery which to this day and hopefully for the rest of my life will mean I will be forever learning new things about myself and other people.
I invite those struggling with their mental health to explore the wisdom that we all have inside of us, often untapped and hidden even from ourselves.
Louise Brignell
